Damn, Tina and I have been together nearly 3 years, almost literally to the day, but instead of celebrating our 3 year anniversary we will soon be kissing each other goodbye

Her big complaint is the "lack of attention" I give her. She believes that when she comes home from work that we should be together, but I have so many things I am trying to do that I just can't sit there watching a movie and chatting about "her day." Tina takes care of severely disadvantaged children, and I have never once complained about "her" lack of attention when she has to work long shifts, or take a weekend day (that we would be spending together) and instead takes care of one of her client's kids that day ... and yet, when I am working on projects overtime at the house, she feels I am just "ignoring her."

Am I being insensitive or is she being unreasonable?

Not only have I been working hard on this site here, but I have a whole other photography site I am working on too (much like Flickr or Pbase), which if implemented and successful could bring in a goldmine ... but these things can never get finished unless I put in the time to finish them. I am not spending all of my time in bars chasing other women, I am not out cheating on her, nor am I just sitting around doing nothing ... I am trying to build something great for our future, but instead of support and understanding, I get "Boo-hoo, what about me?!"

When Thomas Edison stayed up all hours every night working on his projects, his wife brought him cookies and milk at 2am, and she'd stay up to talk about what he was doing. When Henry Ford was inventing the automobile, his wife was the one who came up with the idea that created the carburetor. What happened to women like that, women who supported their men--and were even a cornerstone to their success?

I love Tina, and she is a really sweet and wonderful gal in a lot of important ways, but giving me grief over things I am trying to build for our future is not one of them. She is an aspiring artist on the side, and if she were spending day and night creating works for a gallery, I sure wouldn't be standing there boo-hooing about the "lack of attention" for me. Hell, I'd be asking her if there was something I could get her to make her job easier, and I've got my own things to do to keep me busy.

The way I look at it is the woman in your life is either helping you make your way, or she is in your way, there is no inbetween.

Is this right, or am I just being insensitive?

Jack